We all have our insecurities. For others, they may have been minor and trivial, but for others, the reverse is true. Every day, many of us are tormented by our lack of confidence. True, you can’t always be 100 percent sure about anything you do, say, or think, but isn’t it always nice to get better? So, my dear readers, how about we get started on those pointers?
Just make changes if you want to.
I really mean it when I say that change will come from inside. I’ve spent more than a decade surrounded by people who didn’t like me for who I was (not anymore, thank God). People said things that didn’t seem mean at the time, but they pushed me to become someone I didn’t want to be. If you feel compelled to act or produce a show simply because other people dislike you, you should rethink your decision. It has the potential to damage more than just your self-confidence.
Allow me to give you an example. I’ve always been a high-energy person. I enjoyed conversing, sharing stories, and cracking silly jokes. However, several people in my environment despised my energy and overall personality. There weren’t just a handful of them, either. As a result, I changed. I became quieter, spoke less often, particularly to those who despised me, and was miserable. What is the moral of the story? Unless you are causing harm to yourself or others, you should make the change simply because you want to.
Self-improvement and acceptance
I used to be chubby in high school and middle school. Very chubby. And I didn’t care about it at all. I was ready for a change. My hair, though long, was damaged and thin, and I had acne. I was still slouching and hiding behind my hands. So, after much deliberation, I decided to change my major in my first year of college. I lost almost 8kg, purchased acne remedies (which worked), and cut my hair, and began to take better care of it. These were the areas where I could boost my self-confidence.
What about the things we have no control over? I have one crooked tooth and am still debating whether or not braces are worth the money. I have many cuts, freckles, and stretch marks that I am unable to remove. So, despite the fact that it’s still difficult at times, I embraced them. After all, they are a part of me. So, what’s keeping you from being a better version of yourself or embracing who you are?
Assemble a good group of people around you.
“What is preventing you from being a better version of yourself or knowing who you are?” Mean people are preventing all of us from progressing. That’s something I’m all too familiar with. Since people told me over and over that, I was irritating, dull, and meaningless, I spent the first 12 years of my life believing this. They’ve told me to be still, go down, and stop doing what I enjoy most (drawing) because it’s “childish.” And because I was desperate to fit in, I did exactly as they said. Since so many people had told me there was something wrong with me, I really believed there was something wrong with me.
Then came the first year of college. I was a freshman in a big city, and for the first time in a long time, I didn’t give a damn what other people thought of me. As a result, I stopped hiding or pretending because I was tired of it. And, much to my surprise, a large number of people were attracted to me because of what I was attempting to conceal. I’m still speechless when they tell me how talkative, social, full of life, artistic, and confident I am. What about me? Are you certain? How do you do it? That’s when I learned that when you’re surrounded by the right people, your confidence grows naturally.
Seriously, stop comparing yourself to others.
It’s difficult to avoid comparing yourself to others. Models, influencers, and even “better” people have sprung up like mushrooms thanks to social media. Comparing yourself to others, on the other hand, is extremely harmful to your confidence as well as your mental health. Instead, equate yourself to a previous version of yourself. Check to see how far you’ve progressed. Alternatively, consider how you might progress in the future. There’s always time to improve things.
I used to make a lot of comparisons to other people. I’d notice so many inconsistencies between celebrities and acquaintances. I didn’t feel envious or jealous at all. I felt completely useless. I could never be as attractive, popular, intelligent, or talented as they are. I was nothing, and I was sinking deeper and deeper into a perilous rabbit hole. Not only did my confidence suffer, but so did my trust. I’m on my way to getting back on track after all of this. Things can improve. For you, me, and everybody else.
Take a break and treat yourself.
The thing is, our loss of confidence is often caused by something less stressful than bullying or comparing ourselves to others. It’s sometimes just a matter of needing to unwind and practice your self-care routines. My job used to be hectic for me. I had a habit of pushing myself to my limits while ignoring my needs. I wouldn’t look after myself in the least. I’d spend the whole day in my pajamas, my hair is messy, and my eyes puffy from lack of sleep.
Working and continually improving yourself is not a bad thing. However, there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. So relax, take a bath, change your wardrobe, and do something soothing. Trust me, it may not sound like a big deal, but getting some you-moments is a great way to boost not only your confidence but also your mental health.
Of course, there will be days when you don’t feel confident about yourself or anything else. That’s fine as long as it doesn’t take over your life. Nothing, after all, is truly eternal. If we’re discussing confidence or something else in this universe, everything will wither and give way to new things that will also wither. It’s a trait that repeats itself. What about you, though? Are you ready to work on yourself and accept who you are?