Our reputation with ourselves is what we call self-esteem.
Unfortunately, low self-esteem is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The less you like who you are and what you do, the less inspired you will be to work on improving your self-esteem.
It’s quick to slip into a loop of negative and circular thought from there, trapping you in damaging—and false—beliefs.
How do you break the loop and begin to move in a more optimistic direction?
It’ll take time, and it won’t happen immediately, but there are steps you can take to get it started and keep it going forward. Here are 16 easy ways to boost your self-esteem and start feeling more secure right away.
1. Develop a new ability.
You improve your sense of competency by being professional at something that corresponds to your skills and interests.
2. Make a list of your achievements.
Remember everything you’ve done so far, and then write it down. Make a list of what you’re proud of and what you’ve accomplished. When you need a reminder of your desire to get stuff done and do them well, go through your list.
3. Come up with something fresh.
Creative tasks are an excellent way to reintroduce flow into your life. Since creativity activates the brain, the more you use it, the better. Take out your old guitar, write a story or a poem, enroll in a dance class, or perform in a community theater performance. It helps you much more when you add the challenge of trying something new.
4. Make a list of your ideals.
Determine your principles and evaluate your life for places where you are not living in accordance with them. After that, make any required adjustments. The more you understand who you are and what you stand for, the more self-assured you will be.
5. Overcome your self-sabotaging convictions.
Stop and ask yourself when you find yourself thinking negatively about yourself. Allowing yourself to be constrained by false assumptions is a mistake.
6. Push yourself to the brink of your comfort zone.
Extend yourself and drive yourself to the brink of your comfort zone. Making yourself uncomfortable by doing something new, meeting new people, or addressing a situation in a novel way. At the edge of your comfort zone, trust starts.
7. For self-esteem, Assist someone.
Support others with your strengths, expertise, and abilities. Support others directly, share useful tools, or show them what they want to learn. Give others a gift of what you’re good at.
8. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made in the past.
Unresolved problems and drama will keep you feeling low about yourself. Seek the help of a professional psychologist to help you recover from the past so you can comfortably and self-assuredly step further into the future.
9. Don’t be concerned with what other people think.
When you’re worried about what other people think about you, it’s difficult to be absolutely yourself. Stop thinking about what other people think and start making decisions based on what you want, not what you think others want from you.
10. Pick up a motivational book.
Reading something that encourages you and makes you feel good about yourself is a perfect way to boost your self-esteem.
11. Regain your self-respect.
Define what honesty means to you and make sure you’re living your life in accordance with it. It will exhaust you and make you feel bad about yourself if your life isn’t in line with your character.
12. Accept failure as a necessary part of the learning process.
When you’ve lost, it’s natural to be hard on yourself. However, understanding that failure is an opportunity to improve and that it is a required part of learning and development will help you maintain perspective. Keep in mind that failing means you’re putting forth an effort.
13. Always keep in mind that you are a student.
Consider yourself to be a lifelong learner. Approach anything you do with a student’s mindset, or Shoshin, or “beginner’s mind,” which is free, eager, impartial, and eager to learn.
14. Face your fears, to gain self-respect
Allow yourself to be scared, but keep going regardless. The dance between your deepest desires and your biggest fears is a perfect place to find self-esteem.
15. Take on the role of a mentor.
Be a mentor, a leader, and a supporter of someone who needs your help. Their appreciation and admiration, as well as seeing how far they’ve come with your support, will boost your self-esteem and respect.
16. Identify what constitutes progress.
Determine what success means to you and how it affects your self-assurance. If you really want to do something, you must first find the trust in yourself to do it.